4/16/2023 0 Comments Jitouch keep quitting![]() If you try this advice and it does not work for you, you cannot sue me. This blog is not intended as medical advice or diagnosis and should in no way replace consultation with a medical professional. Psych Mom secret Facebook group for more discussion about these kinds of issues (click the blue “subscribe” button on Facebook!) Psych Mom Show on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or anywhere else you listen to podcasts. Whiten’s books, 52 Emails to Transform Your Marriage and How to Talk to Your Kids about Your Divorce: Healthy, Effective Communication Techniques for Your Changing Family, and listen to The Dr. Whiten and go here for other clinicians in her group practice Best Life Behavioral Health. Till we meet again, I remain, The Blogapist Who Says Always Examine Your Enabling Before Criticizing Someone’s Irresponsibility.įor therapy, go here for Dr. Good luck, and I hope he stays at his crappy job till he finds another crappy job. Pattern you saw at home?) However, if your husband continues to act self-pitying and is unempathic to your position, seek couples counseling to allow a third party to mediate and help each of you empathize with the other. (And you should also examine your unconscious attraction to miserable guys who need to be taken care of. He also sounds like he tends to be miserable as a default worldview, which could potentially improve via counseling, and is likely related to being raised in a negative home. I actually think that you’ve been enabling your husband’s irresponsible job behavior by acting like everything will be fine, and it will be a shock to him that you want him to suck it up this time rather than just quit like usual. But I honestly don’t think it will go this poorly. I am purposely making this go terribly, because life is not a bed of roses. Husband: I get it, you hate me and want me to be miserable. Can you try and wait a couple of weeks while you look through job listings? You: I know you are sensitive to job stress, and I have tried to be very supportive in the past, but I have to tell you that this time I am pretty anxious about it. Husband: Look, I can’t concentrate on applying to new jobs when I’m in that hellhole. You: Maybe you could wait until you have a new job lined up. Husband: So should I just sit there, and fester and stagnate like a rotting bedsore? You: I know, but honestly, I am very scared about eating into our savings. You: I know this may seem unsupportive, but I am really anxious about you leaving your job. Use “I feel” statements and lead with your anxiety. But either way, you are going to need to be direct with your husband and tell him your feelings about his job situation. ![]() It is likely that your husband has ADHD, so you might want to read The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps and see if it resonates. You want financial stability, and evolutionarily, women also like men who can provide. Any thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated! What do I do? I want to be supportive but I also want him to find a job and keep it long term. He is smart and well educated (has his Master’s degree) but a lot of people are struggling to find work. However, for financial reasons, I’d rather he not leave without having another job lined up as it will eat up all of our savings and who knows how long it will take for him to get a new job. Now it has been a complete disaster and the consequences of that bad decision are many. Now, he wants to resign without having a new job lined up and that is stressing me out! I didn’t want him to leave his last job but supported him because he really wanted this new position. He is miserable and really regrets leaving his old position. ![]() He started a new job 5 months ago and it isn’t a good fit, to say the least. ![]() (I feel kind of bad saying that as he held his last job for about 5 years, but he’s had 5 jobs in the last 10 years.) He gets restless and doesn’t feel challenged so he wants to find a new job. ![]()
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